Do you need to struggle?

I have a friend who does something quite curious. He enjoys to struggle to get something.

For example: He is quite attractive and women flock to him in droves. But he would not date a woman unless he has to put in some effort. He is also very smart and he can solve problems easily. But he only values the challenges that pull out all of his mental capacity.

Now that may be a superficial example (and admittedly a curious person) but I feel that generally, we have a similar mindset when it comes to attaining success.

There’s a pervasive belief that unless you’ve worked hard to get something, your success doesn’t count. That unless you’ve truly struggled, then it doesn’t count. If you’re a “struggler”, then you’re a real success.

Isn’t that flawed? 

The mindset that “success doesn’t come easy”, is flat out toxic. And just plain wrong. Sometimes, life works better than you expected. And in those moments, you just have to sit back and be grateful.

Do you need to struggle?